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Rabbinate gets rid of "Tzohar," tightening its monopoly on marriage

The organization that officiated Ori J. Lenkinski’s wedding, and the one viable alternative to the Rabbinate for Jews who want to marry in Israel, informed her that it is being shut down.

This afternoon I received an email from Rabbanei Tzohar, the organization that officiated my marriage. In a very thought-out message, they explained that they were being closed down and would no longer be able to officiate or expedite any matters concerning our marriage certificate, but that we could turn to the Tel Aviv branch of the Rabbinate with any questions.

Religion, it struck me, is quite the business. In Israel, where, in the absence of civil marriages, the only two options for couples wanting to get married are the Rabbinate or a random city hall abroad, it would appear that the Rabbinate had a lot of motives for getting rid of their emerging, liberal cousin, Tzohar.

Having grown up in a pluralistic Jewish community in Philadelphia, and more specifically in a somewhat religious high school environment, I had many scars concerning forced religious practice. For that reason, when my husband asked me to marry him, I immediately assumed that we would do what most of our secular friends did and get married either in Cyprus or the United States. By chance, I met Rabbi Morey Schwartz on the plane from South Africa, who recommended Tzohar to me. Tzohar’s tagline is “A Window Between Worlds,” which sounded a bit cheesy at first but is actually a perfect description of the operation they were running. After checking them out, we decided to go with Tzohar. They offered a great way for us to get married in our own country without having to put up with the nightmare stories we had heard about getting married as a secular couple in the Rabbinate. I have heard countless stories about the huge lines at the Rabbinate where people getting divorced wait alongside blushing brides and the horrible attitude of the staff.

Tzohar wanted to bridge the gap between the religious demands the Rabbinate places surrounding marriage and secular couples seeking to be wed in Israel. They presented a more organic option. Morey ended up marrying us and was a great help throughout the entire process before the wedding itself.

Neither the Tzohar staff nor anyone associated with them never made us feel, not even for one second, that we were an unobservant couple. They never implied that we were doing anything wrong by living secularly. The overall feeling was acceptance. They even had a department especially for secular couples, where they offered advice on finding ways to make the experience feel right for us. It may seem mushy to say this, but during the sensitive time before one of the bigger steps I’ve taken in my life, that warmth was well-appreciated.

Tzohar were also incredibly efficient. Their entire system is digital with all important documents and reminders sent via email. At Tzohar, when you scheduled a meeting, they saw you exactly at the planned time. At Tzohar, everyone was friendly and helpful. They called me numerous times in the months before the wedding to see if everything was moving along and to offer helpful tips about what Mikve (ritual bath) to go to and which bridal counselor would understand me the best. It wasn’t that we didn’t have to complete the list of tasks laid out by the Rabbinate, but rather that the people involved seemed genuinely invested in making it a positive and enjoyable process.

But, alas, they were plucking secular couples away from the Rabbinate. The growing number of couples turning to Tzohar threatened the Rabbinate’s monopoly on matrimony and so they shut it down. At first, they limited the number of couples that Tzohar could take care of to a very small portion of their yearly intake. And when Tzohar scaled back to meet the Rabbinate’s demands, they found themselves unable to stay above water.

Thus, today, our country took one step backwards. A step away from openness. Away from bridging the gap between Church and State. And I suppose I wonder how we can let this happen? How can we allow the Rabbinate to annihilate their only competition? Shouldn’t we try to protect the one other option available to us as Jews getting married in Israel?


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    1. Mitchell Cohen

      I am sorry to hear Tzohar is closing down. They are a great organization.

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    2. Eric Mendelsohn

      A three state solution is needed Palestine, Democratic Israel,and The Kharedistan Jewish Republic.

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    3. Naomi Siebenberg-Santoro

      Eric! That is priceless! I love it! 😀

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    4. Ben Israel

      Eric-
      How many Haredim does the average secular Israeli encounter every day? How much influence do the Haredim have on secular Israelis during their day-to-day life? What percentage of the secular Israeli population has had problems on the gender-segregated buses? How many secular Israelis have ever had an ideological conversation with Haredim to find out what they really think?

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    5. AYLA

      BenIsrael–excellent question about how many secular Israelis have ever had an ideological conversation with Haradim to find out what they really think. Also I don’t count myself as secular, I run in secular circles among my Israeli-born friends. So: 1) I’d be happy to talk to them, just as I’m happy to talk to people who live in settlements (and do, whenever I have the opportunity, which is more often than I have the opportunity to talk to Haredim, who do not seem to want to talk to (look at) me. Are you willing to walk your walk and talk to Palestinians to see what they really think, or to see how they really live? 2) Will Haredim talk to me? The men won’t. Maybe the women? You think? Re: the rest of it, Haredim have so much control over our government in ways that affect all of us. This editorial speaks to that point.

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    6. AYLA

      @Michell–thank you. that’s nice. As an american jew, it really saddens me to see the choices Israelis have in connection to judaism and jewish religious tradition/practice. It’s both ironic and understandable that the Jewish State has turned so many Jews away from jewish tradition. But it doesn’t have to be that way.

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    7. Ben Israel

      Ayla-
      Golda Meir was once asked by a visiting delegation of Conservative and Reform rabbis when their non-Orthodox movements would gain official recognition in Israel. She said “when 1 million Reform and Conservative Jews make aliyah from the US”. The challenge is still there. There is nothing stopping them from coming and building synagogues and recruting supporters from among the secular Israeli population. I often hear R and C Jews in America saying “I will come AFTER my movement gains recognition”. My response is that Zionism was always about building things up from nothing. If they don’t come and build their movements up here they have no one to blame but themselves.

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    8. AYLA

      BI–I actually don’t identify as R or C, but I hear your point. However, the climate here is too politically (not religiously) right wing right now for many americans. They would have to feel that they wanted to devote their lives to the CAUSE of living here, and most people have other things to devote their lives to. I’m not here because it’s a cause for me. I’m here because my heart called me to this place, in the Negev, as a writer. It’s a lot to ask of people to devote themselves to a spiritual/religious homeland whose policies go against their core, moral values.
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      you didn’t answer any of my questions.
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      It occurs to me that you are here on 972’s site with such a false idea that they are out to show Israel in a negative light, and with such a mission to counter any such (perceived) argument, that you can’t even respond to the issue in this article, which is that Israel’s religious right policy is making it very hard for Israelis to stay connected to Judaism, something that concerns this author, and would probably concern you, too, if you could actually hear anything.

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    9. It appears that Tzohar is back in business. An agreement was reached on Wednesday evening allowing it to continue it services

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