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Between Yom Kippur and Eid al-Adha: Navigating stone-throwing with Waze

Tensions in Israel are increasing as the Jewish fast and the Muslim feast are set to take place on the same day. But should Muslims give up their holiday joy just to ensure that Jews are not disturbed?

(Translated from Hebrew by Sol Salbe)

Once every 33 years it happens: Muslims celebrate Eid al-Adha, the Feast of the Sacrifice, and on the same day the Jews are engaged in introspection each looking at their relations with others in the world, and seeking forgiveness, on Yom Kippur. Jews fast while we feast from dawn to dusk in a rare and inexplicable festivity. I assure you that occasionally jokes are cracked about our fast, a month-long fast, compared to our Jewish cousins’ single day which they are unable to withstand.

But this year we must celebrate this holiday, no matter what. Because during the summer, nobody celebrated Eid al-Fitr at the height of the war on Gaza, and we don’t have another holiday until next summer.

Eid al-Adha in Jerusalem (Photo by Asim Bharwani, CC)

Eid al-Adha in Jerusalem (Photo by Asim Bharwani, CC)

We dub this holiday “Al Eid al Kabir” “the Great holiday.” In Judaism, Yom Kippur, is “the holiest day of the year”. In our holiday, in addition to sacrificing lots of sheep and calves, emulating the Prophet Ibrahim (Abraham) who was on the verge of sacrificing his son Ishmael (Ismail), we have another custom. We each visit all our family members, including those who live outside the neighborhood. We travel wherever we need to travel and greet everyone. In my case I expect to be calling on no less than 30 homes, greeting and well-wishing relatives on a long journey of ten villages and towns. And that’s just the obligatory visits, not including hosting others, restaurants and a fun trip for the children to compensate them for enduring the arduous trip. And here my stress level rises as a mother of three children whom I really don’t feel like sacrificing for anything or anyone.

An Iron Dome for Arab vehicles

For a moment I thought how nice it would be to travel on empty roads not being concerned with looking at red paths marked on the Waze app. But that sweet little dream dissipated in a flash. A warning light came on instead. What will happen in places inhabited by Jews? Would they throw stones at us? That would be indeed dangerous. Would it be regarded as a terrorist attack if they threw a rock or even a filled-up diaper at us?

Some friends with whom I discussed the matter, said they “expected trouble in their place” and that we need to prepare. That fear has been heightened following Protective Edge [called Tzuk Eitan (Strong Cliff) in Hebrew]: perhaps this will give a chance for a repeat performance for those who missed out on attacking Arabs last time? The Cliff has crumbled and there are rocks strewn about, just ready for use.

Illustrative photo of ultra-Orthodox Jews throwing stones. (Photo by Activestills.org)

Illustrative photo of ultra-Orthodox Jews throwing stones. (Photo by Activestills.org)

But how does an Arab prepare for stone throwing? I imagined that the first priority would have to be documentation, because for sure the question would rise as to who threw stones first, the Arab or the Jew? You try to persuade people in this country that an Arab family was going about its business peacefully and joyously and had stones thrown at its car without the family being accused of terrorism. Therefore this documentation is important! What else should have ready? Change of clothes, water and first aid, maybe a replacement car…and her list kept on getting longer.

The smartest way is to look for an alternative. Yep, this is the solution: “get the Waze App to find a path without rock throwing”. But hours of thinking and planning proved fruitless. I found out that it is impossible to reach all the destinations with the aunties waiting with coffee and sweets, or with skewers of meat and a fired-up a barbecue, in a path “free of Jews.” It’s just not possible. We just too are too intermingled with each other.

So I came up with a bright-spark idea: how about inventing an Iron Dome for every Arab vehicle traveling during a holiday? Perhaps giving Muslim revelers armored vehicles would be a pretty nice present from the state to its citizens on Yom Kippur. Why not? It may make up for the Iron Dome and the “Code Red” sirens which did not operate in Bedouin communities in the South. No need to worry about the “Color Red” rocket sirens – we will take care of it ourselves. Between all the slaughtering on the holiday and the lacking sewage infrastructure in Arab towns, everything will be painted red. Then I thought, maybe Israel’s chief rabbi could declare Eid al-Adha as an occasion of Pikuach Nefesh for all, where Jewish law says that the saving of human life overrides all other considerations. And believe me, I do have relatives that visiting them falls under Pikuach Nefesh, because if we don’t visit them, my family would have to face dreadful consequences. So it looks like I’m really worried.

Religious freedom for Bahais

I thought to myself why are all the Arabs and most of the Jews that I know, able to live in peace with the notion that there will be “troubles” on Yom Kippur. There is no way but to decode that word into riots, violence, racism, terror, fear and intimidation. Why should I have to protect myself from an attack which is known in advance? Why am I supposed to be tolerant and understanding? Why am I expected to lower my profile as in every other year?

This time, even if I wanted to lower my presence and my Arab voice I wouldn’t be able to: we have a great holiday to celebrate. But instead of taking advantage of the quality time of arguments and delightful tension with my husband and children in the car, I’m meant to limit my mobility depending on the location of “problematic spots.”

Yom Kippur in Jaffa (File photo by Yael Marom)

Yom Kippur in Jaffa (File photo by Yael Marom)

This year I have decided that I’m unwilling to collaborate with that. On this Kippur/al-Adha day I will travel as much as I need to and go to where I need to, and I’ll continue to dream of a normal country. I’ll dream of a country where everyone – Muslim, Jewish, Christian, Baha’i, Armenian, Buddhist and what have you – can act according to their conscience, in their private space, without hurting, or causing pain and suffering to others.

I believe that it is our responsibility to learn about each other, to understand what the people next door do on their holidays – and to get closer to them. The ignorance around us will only disappear if we talk to the Other and show interest in them, and educate everyone that in this world we are not alone. Let us pray, and more importantly do something to bring this day closer to us. If we can rise above our nasty propensities we might even succeed in wishing others happiness and compassion.

Happy holiday to everyone, and Gmar Chatima Tova [May you be inscribed (in the Book of Life) for good].

Samah Salaime Egbariya is a social worker, director of the Na’am Ngo [Arab women of the Center] in Lydd/Lod/Lydda, a graduate in education of the Mandel Leadership Institute in Jerusalem, and a resident of Neve Shalom – Wahat al Salam, the only joint Arab-Jewish village in Israel. This article was first published on +972’s Hebrew-language sister site, Local Call. Read it in Hebrew here.

Translated by Sol Salbe of the Middle East News Service, Melbourne Australia.

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    1. Pedro X

      Odd, in a story about stone throwing he author would not have mentioned the thousands of rock attacks by Arabs on Jews. Just yesterday I watched a video of Arabs in Jerusalem stoning a pre-school for Jewish children. The other day a school bus of young children was stoned. In Jerusalem residents can he heard talking of the mini intifada of attacks against Jews going on every day.

      So, maybe the writer of this article should talk to her fellow Arabs of not throwing stones before admonishing anyone else.

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      • Jn

        And it’s not the case that 3 NGOs have volunteers that walk Palestinian children to school every day in Hebron/Al-Khalil due to settlers throwing stones at these children everyday they try and get to school. Nope.

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        • Whiplash

          There are no ngos in Hevron protecting the Jews from the Arabs. Israel has to keep part of its army in Hevron to prevent the Palestinians from slaughtering the Jews living there like they did in 1929. In order to pray at the Tomb of the Patriarchs Israelis and Jews need armed protection from the murderous intentions of the Muslim population. Many Jews have been attacked while praying in Hevron or standing guard so others could. It was only last year when a Palestinian terrorist shot and killed an Israeli soldier as he guarded Jews praying.

          Israel sees Hevron as the most ancient of Jewish cities. It is also of great religious significance with Abraham and other various members having been buried there.

          The bad blood in Hevron stems from Arab and Muslim non-acceptance of Jewish heritage and an unwillingness to share what should be a holy city to both religions. this is truly ironic since Hevron in Hebrew and Arabic means “friend of” as in friend of god.

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      • Azza elostaz

        Dear Pedro

        Who ever wrote the article is writing about a religious day for both Arabs and Jews …now as for throwing stones on kids I am sorry that this is happening ,,unfortunately this is politics ,,,if you are asking the writer to be logic and just ,,you should be the same ,,it seems that you are only watching videos about Arab being violent with Jewish kids ,,did you watch what the Israeli army did in Gaza this year and years before ,,,did you see the time they used chemical weapons that melted the inner organs of many kids,women, elder people in Gaza ,,,, have you ever watched how they enjoy insulting each and everyone from the Arabs,,, have you ever seen a video that explain and show what the Arabs go through in their daily life from suffering ,,hardship ,,, sickness ,,not able to to see their families because of the wall they built ,,obviously you didn’t ,,or you know what it seems you are one of those whom sees himself only and not the others and you are expecting each and everyone to look after you and take care of you and f. Everybody

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      • BDS

        Dear Pedro, the whole point about the stone-throwing was, that we always hear about Arabs throwing stones, but never about Jews doing it. Therefore the documentation is needed.

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        • Pedro X

          Actually, you just have to listen to israelnationalnews radio to hear complaints about Israeli police harshly treating Jewish stone throwers and others participating in price tag attacks. If you read the Times of Israel or Haaretz you will probably read of every stone throwing attack by a Jew on an Arab but rarely the other way around unless a Jew receives an injury.

          Then go to maannews and see if that news organization reports on attacks on Jews in Judea and Samaria or in Jerusalem.

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      • Richard Lightbown

        Perhaps you might care to take your blinkers off for the holiday Ped. It could be quite an enriching experience.

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    2. Just Ice

      Funny that whenever a Jew throws a stone it is fine but a young child can get two years if he is suspected of it. Isn’ t it odd that whenever rockets are launched the media forget to mention the 5-50 Palestinian people that were shot, bombed, terrorized that day.oh and let us not forget Palestinians do not have a military and are subjected to military law.Israeli Snipers regularly shooting unarmed civilians and during demonstrations. Oh and settler violence is condoned and finally stone throwing is an act of RESISTANCE cos the Palestinians have nothing else. Tear gas which harms, rubber coated bullets which blind, maim and kill children.The world’s fourth largest defence force where one bomb can kill 100 people are moaning about stupid stones. Wake up you deluded fool!

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    3. Average American

      Stone throwing is barbaric. It’s cave-man. It is not representative of a modern society or government. It is being used by both sides as a religious expression with religious significance. Jews and Palestinians both stuck in thousand-year-old religious dogma. The whole region is run by religion. Example: Israel has State Rabbis, its flag is a religious symbol, its name is religious (The Jewish State), its expansion is justified (to them) by religion, embedding religion into government.

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      • Dave Thompson

        Jewish is a people, not necessarily a religion or race.

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    4. Mikey

      So what happened? Any actual (not illustrative) photos of enraged ultra-Orthodox Jews throwing stones at Arabs on Yom Kippur?

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    5. Tamar

      I love this writer for unvarnished truth-telling absent unbridled cynicism or total despair.

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